Counselling With Frances Rayner

What Is Counselling?

Counselling is a confidential, helping relationship, where you can talk about the problems and the emotional difficulties you are facing in your life.

First Session (Assessment)

The initial assessment enables me to hear why you have come for counselling and what you hope to gain from the counselling relationship.

It also gives me the opportunity to discuss how I work and assess whether I am the best person for you to have counselling with.

My approach to counselling is profoundly person-centred.  I view the therapeutic relationship as the crucible for change, with empathy, congruence and unconditional regard as vital for connectedness to both self and others.

Counselling Process

As a counsellor,  I will really listen to you.  I will focus on you and what you need and use my expertise to help you explore and work on the problems and emotional difficulties you are facing without judging you.  I won’t pretend to be the expert on your life.  Sometimes, this can feel a little frustrating.  You may be thinking “why won’t she just give me some advice, or tell me what to do?”  If I did this, you would be relying on me to sort out your problems.  Counselling is really about helping you to work on your problems yourself.

So, what does this mean?  It could mean exploring the anger about your partner and then being able to say something to him or her that doesn’t just lead to another unpleasant argument,  Or it could mean learning to care for yourself when you get anxious.  It could also mean being supported to get in touch with the pain of losing a loved one and then finding the courage to say goodbye.

So, counselling is about self-development and helping you to get better at living your life.  It’s about you becoming better at dealing with problems, for example in your close relationships, or feeling better at dealing with feelings such as grief and anxiety.

What Can Counselling Help With?

Counselling can be helpful for anyone having difficulties of any kind, including:

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Loneliness and isolation
  • Relationship problems
  • Difficulties at home
  • Abuse
  • Issues with sexuality and gender
  • Difficulties in your work
  • Past trauma’s
  • Patterns of thinking or behaving that are not helpful to you
  • Self-harm
  • Drug and alcohol abuse

My Experience

For the last 7 years I have worked as a specialist educational provider at The University of Plymouth and Plymouth College of Art.

Between 2018 and 2019 I worked as a volunteer counsellor for Young Devon, supporting young people aged 11-18 years.

Since 2018, I have worked as a volunteer counsellor at The University of Plymouth.